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Imposter Syndrome vs the real you.

Imposter syndrome is the reason we quit early, before we have the chance to disappoint. Imposter syndrome is the reason we never step fully into our call, because we feel like a fraud. And imposter syndrome is what keeps us from being vulnerable to others, because we’re too afraid of being found out. Sharon Miller
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from Propel Women)


Imposter syndrome comes from an emotion that manifests in various ways. Some of the noticeable symptoms suggest Persistent Self-Doubt, Fear of Failure and Rejection, Downplaying Achievements, Overworking and Perfectionism, Comparing with Others, Feeling Like a Fraud, Isolating Oneself, Constantly Seeking Validation etc.

These are some points I pulled out from the internet, however, it's essential to note that experiencing some of these symptoms does not automatically mean someone has imposter syndrome. It's a complex psychological phenomenon that may manifest differently in different individuals and vary in intensity over time. If these feelings persist and significantly impact your well-being or professional life, it is beneficial to seek support from friends, family, or a professional. Addressing imposter syndrome involves recognizing these feelings and developing healthier perspectives and coping strategies to build self-confidence and self-worth.


In my view, the mentioned symptoms depict an individual facing uncertainty, confusion, and a lack of self-confidence. These feelings often arise, particularly when we compare ourselves to others or receive unfavorable feedback about our abilities. Consequently, self-doubt and disbelief gradually take hold. While it's essential to acknowledge our emotions, how we handle them becomes crucial.

Remember that experiencing self-doubt is a normal aspect of being human, but it doesn't have to define us or hinder our potential. By nurturing a more positive and compassionate mindset, we can navigate these emotions and cultivate a stronger sense of self-assurance and belief in our capabilities. If self-doubt becomes overwhelming and persists, seeking guidance from a professional can be beneficial in developing coping strategies and building resilience.


the way out of imposter syndrome is to recognize the real you

From a right-believing perspective, we are all made uniquely different. Different is okay. We are called to be set apart in the work that we do. Knowing that your role in the industry and perspective can differ from others due to your own experiences. That in the right place is recognizing who you are first and who you are becoming.

We ought to give ourselves permission to grow.

Truth: No two person alike, even identical twins. Not everyone is born the same and perfect. We can hone our skills through learning and relearning. Chances are we do not know what we are about until we sus out who we want to become.

Facts: People do not always have the right to who you are or what you are offering. If their values and yours do not align, it is respectfully okay to turn them down. But you can still choose to value their differences because…

“…everyone’s got self doubt.”

Barbara Corcoran says every successful person she knows has imposter syndrome: ‘That’s what drives them’. She works with people who have ideas and insecurities — because someone who knows what they don’t know is more likely to succeed than someone who thinks they have all the answers.

Impostor syndrome isn't a disease. It's a normal response to internalizing impossibly high standards. Adam Grant Tweet


In the highest of praise, it is who God says I am. I understand that not all of us might share the same sentiments about self-worth/value. But for it is written, only God knows.

It is comforting to know that as children of God, we have been made in His image and carefully formed with the DNA of our Father. 1 John 3:1 says, “See what great love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called the children of God and that is what we are …” This Scripture provides a clear picture of who we are and whose we areOyindamola Olusunmade (from Propel Women)

Now if my faith is anchored in Christ, then who can stand against me? My hope is that you will come to realize your true identity in Christ, the One who fashioned you in His image and knew you even before you were formed in your mother's womb. So, who has the authority to label you an imposter when you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God the Creator of ALL things?

Dear friends, remember that you are not alone in your pursuit of self-discovery, especially if you aspire to be an entrepreneur in this imperfect world.

As always, if you need someone to talk to, I’d love to be there.