City girl vs slow living
"Goodbye Girl Boss, Hello Snail Girl?!"
Just as I was about to write "City Girl vs Slow Living," I began with research on what it means for a city girl to embrace a slower pace. To my surprise, I stumbled upon a new trend on TikTok that ushers in the era of the "snail girl."
For my new friends who are just getting to know me, I began SLC because I discovered that embracing slowness is not only possible but also rewarding. Who would have thought that I would leave behind a high-paying career in pursuit of a slower, more meaningful life?
Yet here, I find myself both excited and concerned with this ‘Snail Girl’ era. My concern lies in the possibility that this message might be misunderstood, potentially leading employers to perceive Gen Z as lazy. However, in the context of today's world, the concept of slowness appears to be entwined with self-care. It often translates into ending work earlier or taking days off to recharge from our constant mental battles.
Since my work is faith driven, I’d want to emphasize the true essence of slowness from a Kingdom perspective, drawing inspiration from a biblical story we all know:
Jesus at the home of two sisters, Martha and Mary (Luke 10:38~)
If you're familiar with the story, I'd like to ask: Do you find yourself identifying more with Martha or Mary in today's fast-paced world?
If you’re not continue reading as you chew on this question.
In my conversations with many women about adopting a slower lifestyle, I've noticed that most of them resonate more with Martha. For them, especially those who juggle multiple roles as wives, mothers, and professionals, slowing down seems nearly impossible. We often make excuses about not having enough time for ourselves for self-love, reading, or intentionally cultivating friendships and discipleship.
This can lead to feelings of guilt for falling short as women, pursuing perfection burdened by our responsibilities. Over time, we may find ourselves living a life that is constantly on the brink of burnout, filled with uncertainty. We grumble through our busy seasons, seeking achievement like a drug. We do it to be seen at work, to feel a sense of belonging.
…Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me! (Luke 10:40)8
On the other hand, Mary chose to be at the feet of Jesus. She was not lazy. All she wanted was to spend precious moments with her Kingly guest. Imagine the King of all kings right at your house! I believe Mary was attracted to Jesus’ light and all she wanted was to be intimately in His presence. Jesus then said, “Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:42)
In the midst of constant busyness, we must pause and ask ourselves: what are we choosing to do differently? Are we intentionally seeking rest, or are we burying ourselves in a never-ending cycle of productivity? Do we shame ourselves for not doing enough. Or do we give ourselves permission to grow? Are we stuck with old ways unwilling to change? Have we found contentment in surrendering, allowing God to work on our behalf?
Faith is an inner work. Often, this means deviating from our meticulously planned schedules and making time for what truly matters. Do we make time for our loved ones or even to allow new friendships?
In this example, Mary chose to be with the Living Son of God. Just as the Bible is a living, breathing document. It means that His words will take root and flourish within you. As you read, listen, and immerse yourself in His wisdom through reading, sermons or songs of praise, it becomes a journey of getting to know Him. The more you come to understand, the deeper your trust in Him becomes.
This discovery is not about reciting verses flawlessly or becoming a theologian overnight. It's about embracing the living Word of God and allowing it to permeate your heart and soul. It's about forging a genuine, personal connection with your Creator. And the only way to get on to it? It is to slow it down and turn your gaze towards Hope.
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For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have?”
The world will tug you in different directions and your schedule will overwhelm you, remember that it's okay to hit pause. Take a moment to breathe, reflect, and seek His guidance. In the silence, you may find the most profound conversations with God, strengthening your faith and deepening your trust in His divine plan.
Trust that in those still moments, He is working in you, shaping your faith, and guiding you toward a deeper understanding of His love and purpose for your life.
So, is life easier when we attempt to embrace a slower pace?
Well, we will still grapple with the decision to slow down or to keep up the relentless pace of work. It might be easier as you practice slowness intentionally. However, as you recognize striking a balance is key. Slowing down doesn't entail forsaking our responsibilities; instead, it involves discovering how to give precedence to self-care, faith, and purpose within the whirlwind of life's demands. By doing so, we can achieve a more serene and gratifying life, liberating ourselves from the perpetual whirlwind of busyness and the quest for validation through our work.
As we explore the concept of "snail girl" living, let's remember that it's not about laziness but reclaiming our time, peace, and purpose. A healthier way to navigate the bustling city and nurture our souls.
I genuinely hope this offers clarity. As a city girl, you may relish the vibrant hustle and the noise that surrounds you. It can be a source of energy, driving you toward your purpose. We each have our uniquely given expression in the body of Christ. If we are all trying to do it all, we are driven to distraction. Instead, we remain and abide in Jesus by sitting at His feet to receive and absorb His love.
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I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.”
For apart from Him, we can do nothing. In this life, to be one in relationship with Jesus, to build or extend His business. It's essential for you to carve time for slowness – to immerse yourself in His loving nature, to pause, and to listen for His still, small voice that guides you into His lightness.
